Parenting Principles

  • Don’t worry about treating children fairly. Remember that to a child, “fair” means “me first” with the biggest and best of everything.
  • To a child, need and want feel exactly the same. The child will remain forever confused unless parents do a good job of separating the wheat from the chaff, the necessary from the unnecessary.
  • Do not agonize over anything a child does or fails to do if the child is perfectly capable of agonizing over it himself.
  • The fewer toys and, therefore, the more space a child has in which to explore and create, the more successful the child will be at occupying his or her time.
  • Don’t allow children be the center of attention in the family for it will turn the family upside down, inside out, and backwards.
  • In the adult-centered family, the major share of attention goes from adult to adult rather than adult to child. This “weans” children from the need for constant attention, thus permitting the growth of self-reliance.
  • Within a family, the proper place for children is the backseat. Parents need to sit in the front seat, so they can keep their eyes on the road ahead.
  • Parents who always go out of their way for their children eventually lose their way.
  • As a parent, you’ll never be perfect, but you’ll always be the only mother or father your child will ever want. Do your best, and your best will be good enough.
  • Respect in the parent-child relationship is a two-way street. Children show respect for parents by obeying them, and parents show respect for children by expecting them to obey.
  • The teaching of the “Three R’s” (Respect, Responsibility, and Resourcefulness) begins at home.
  • The more parents do for a child, the less the child is ultimately capable of doing for himself.
  • The most effective means of helping a child toward becoming a productive, responsible member of society is to assign him or her a regular, daily routine of chores around the home. Parents who fail to do so are neglecting their civic responsibilities.
  • The ultimate goal of raising children is to help them out of our lives and into successful lives of their own.
  • Discipline is not the sum of a set of methods. It is a climate of understanding that permeates every aspect of the family’s life.
  • The ability to develop self-control depends upon being able to accurately predict the consequences of your own behavior. That’s why parental consistency is so important. Without it, a child wanders lost.

by John Rosemond